Sunday, December 30, 2007

Have you set the date yet?

Kanika:
Well, we had our last counseling session a few weeks ago. What a rewarding experience. James and I promised that we would submit ourselves to our counselor's before we set our wedding date. Two months (6 sessions) later and we're still together. All jokes aside, I couldn't imagine going through these counseling sessions with anyone else.

James:
Man when is the date bro? ...James....have you set the date yet? No and here is why. We just finished pre-marital counseling. My Glory and I, are so happy to have sown into this righteous process. It feels good. Pray for us as we roll into the next step. SETTING THE DATE! (Pic of us signing the completion form)

Kanika:
It seems like everything hinges on this one thing....the wedding date. Now with our counseling completed, we have been checking out some potential venues for the wedding. Gee, there's so much pressure out there to consider this or buy that. Not to mention how expensive some of these places are. Until this week I didn't know what a $10,000 minimum was. No wonder the average American wedding costs $25,000 or more. Knowing what it's going to take to pull this off is only half the battle. Determining the date will really get the ball rolling. Please continue to pray for us as we trust God on which date to choose, budgets and everything in between.

James:
Amen. I thought that getting the ring on her finger was it. Next stop marriage. Nope. there is a real, real serious step before the Ceremony, and Marriage. Anyone reading this, who is looking to get married, please have your communications together, have the issues between the two of you identified, and especially make sure you have chosen God's best for you. You will need to talk through what most people believe to be some of the most stressful of subjects, and trust us you do not want to do that with someone you don't trust, don't understand, and won't listen to you. Until next time....peace out

Monday, December 3, 2007

Fall is here in Atlanta (officially)


November 15, 2007

Kanika says:
This past weekend was an emotional blurr. So much in fact, just thinking about it is exhausting. On Saturday, James and I were invited to a baby shower. No worries, men were there too. It was fun, but I also learned a good lesson about perception. I have this habit of inferring how James feels about things, instead of asking him head on. So when I was ready to go, I didn't come out and say it. Instead, I asked him if he was ready to go. Much to my chagrin, this nagging little behavioral flaw came out in our counseling session on Sunday. All I can say is, man our counselor's are GOOD. They know us really well and they seem to know me exceptionally well. They gave us some techniques to help us in our communication and really encouraged me to assert myself more. On one hand I was glad they were honest with me. But I got to tell ya, there was a part of me that dreaded the emotional upheaval that I'm in for. I mean, there's no where to hide when a great marriage is your goal. Don't get me wrong, I love being engaged to James. He's great, even when we don't agree and so compassionate too. But I think the idea of getting married was taking over the reality that marriage takes work, even before walking down the aisle. Praise God for our counselors and even my mom who shared some pretty raw truths this weekend. I'm still a little emotional about the whole thing, but at least I know that my best friend is with me and that God is guiding this thing every step of the way.

James says:
YO! YO! YO! I remember Kanika was so "wooh-sey" with love. She was like
"i don't even need a wedding ring....I would wear a glad tie wrap on my finger, thats all I need"
(as she batted hey eyelashes at me)...LOL She was really serious too! :-) I love her so much.
She is so special..I will love her all the days of my life. Kanika is still a romantic. I love how she takes the time to offer me help at every turn, while still managing to light the hallways up with her smiling face. She not just my fiance she my friend. My best friend.

James










James and Kanika at church